Energetic Boundaries | how healthy are yours?

Oh wow! Did that really happen? A colleague at work has just told you all their problems about ... the boss / the spouse / the kids/ the bank ... and by the end of it they thank you because they feel sooo much lighter now. Yay for them, but how do you feel after this exchange? Feeling drained, exhausted, heavy? Well that's because you just experienced an energy dump. We are constantly exchanging energies with the people around us and some of it is toxic. But there are ways to strengthen your energetic boundaries and minimise this happening.

So lets start at the beginning, What is your energetic or subtle body?

​Our energetic body is our aura and it is a field of energy that extends beyond our physical body. This energy is much more subtle than our physical body so it is not visible to the eye as it vibrates at a high frequency. It consists of 7 basic layers which are; etheric, emotional, mental, astral, etheric template, celestial and causal. Each layer holds different forms of information relating to our physical health, emotions and feelings, thoughts and mental processes. 

Physical illness and dis-ease begin as an imbalance in our energetic body. If we are not aware of this and the imbalance is not healed it will eventually manifest in the physical body. When our aura has holes, weak spots or thinning we can experience disturbances which take many different forms.

Some common signs of energetic boundaries issues. as described in Cyndi Dale's book 'Energetic Boundaries' are;

• feeling overwhelmed by everyone else's feelings, moods, needs, problems, negativity and even illnesses.
• habitual people pleasing, usually to your own detriment.
• exhaustion, anger and frustration from carrying, and caring about, everyone else while receiving nothing in return.
• depressing heaviness and physical illness, results of absorbing external energies.  
• generalised anxiety, the product of always needing to watch for unseen dangers.

For most people, clearing the aura is the first step to feeling healthier physically, emotionally, mentally and even spiritually. To continue doing this is a great practice to incorporate into your day. As you strengthen your aura you may find that you sleep better, you are more calm and importantly develop the ability to say 'no'. This doesn't make you a selfish person or an uncaring person by the way, it just means that you are caring for yourself which is no less important than caring for someone else.

Ok, are you ready to clean up and strengthen your aura?

There are many ways to cleanse and strenghten your aura so I will list my top five favourites.

• sound medicine from Tibetan singing bowls and crystal singing bowls are well known in ancient cultures for their ability to dissolve negative energies and moving stagnant energy.
• smudge yourself with white sage or an aura clearing spray which contains white sage, such as our Aura & Room Clearing spray. Sage has been used in cultural ceremonies for many years for cleansing energy.
• do a salt scrub in the shower with pink Himalayan salt. The combination of salt and the negative ions created by the running water are powerful for releasing negative energy. 
• put your hands on the earth or on a tree. Mother Earth is very loving and we can say something along the lines of 'Mother Earth, I release this energy to you. Please absorb it.'
• using the positive vibrations of crystals, essential oils and flower essences are excellent and pleasant ways to raise your vibration and strengthening the aura. 

I also recommend regular sessions for chakra balancing or reiki to keep a healthy energy flow and high vibe. 

I would love to hear how you care for your aura and any processes that have helped you gain or maintain healthy energetic boundaries. I find that there is often an interesting story of growth behind peoples desire to learn about and develop boundaries and they are usually very inspiring. So please feel free to share your inspiration as you never know who may need it.